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Nov. 17th, 2009 01:48 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
urocyonTonight seems to be the time for me to try to track down people I haven't seen in ages.
I started out looking for my mom's favorite cousin's phone number (also my self-appointed Second Mama), which is still unlisted. I don't really want to ask my stepdad for it. :-| But, I did find her street number and ZIP, so I can send her snail mail. No luck finding her son's e-mail, and at last check he didn't have a landline to be listed. It would be a shame to stay out of touch with them because Sid's a jerk, so I think I will write to her and request easier contact details. :)
It may be as well that I didn't find the phone number, since she choked up the last time I called her, mistaking me for my mom. Even close family think we sound alike. She might have a heart attack were I to get her on the phone, this close to the anniversary of my mother's death! I thought she might the last time.
Earlier today I started thinking about an old friend. We've gotten out of touch for better than 10 years. No luck finding contact info I can actually use (not good at cold calls on the two candidates, bad as my auditory processing has been!), and I am not about to pay for a weird stalkery background check to make sure I've got the right contact info on the right person--though she did turn up in that kind of result. No luck finding a working e-mail address for either of her parents, either. I guess that one will have to lie for now.
Working on a similar train of thought, I made an intimidating find: my stepbrother. We haven't been in touch in 20+ years, but I really liked him then. Finding his contact info suggests a whole can of worms I'm not sure I want to break into right now, even while I'm on another continent. OTOH, unless he's completely in the throes of Stockholm Syndrome--still, at 38--he should understand better than anybody else why I might not want to get in touch with my biodad and stepmother. (I don't even know if they're still around; she apparently looked very ill indeed in the early '90s, but there is still a phone listing in her name. My biodad, who knows.) It looks like he's probably fairly sane, as these things go, and has made a decent life for himself. I actually considered sending him an e-mail 5+ years ago. The possibility will require a lot more thought. I'm far better prepared to deal with whatever may arise these days, but it's still giving me chest pains.
Yeah, I've been feeling the social isolation lately, especially from family other than my uncle and his crew. I'm really glad we got things cleared up, while I was back in VA!
A couple more recent blog posts:
Attitudes, disability, and violence
Time to meditate?
I started out looking for my mom's favorite cousin's phone number (also my self-appointed Second Mama), which is still unlisted. I don't really want to ask my stepdad for it. :-| But, I did find her street number and ZIP, so I can send her snail mail. No luck finding her son's e-mail, and at last check he didn't have a landline to be listed. It would be a shame to stay out of touch with them because Sid's a jerk, so I think I will write to her and request easier contact details. :)
It may be as well that I didn't find the phone number, since she choked up the last time I called her, mistaking me for my mom. Even close family think we sound alike. She might have a heart attack were I to get her on the phone, this close to the anniversary of my mother's death! I thought she might the last time.
Earlier today I started thinking about an old friend. We've gotten out of touch for better than 10 years. No luck finding contact info I can actually use (not good at cold calls on the two candidates, bad as my auditory processing has been!), and I am not about to pay for a weird stalkery background check to make sure I've got the right contact info on the right person--though she did turn up in that kind of result. No luck finding a working e-mail address for either of her parents, either. I guess that one will have to lie for now.
Working on a similar train of thought, I made an intimidating find: my stepbrother. We haven't been in touch in 20+ years, but I really liked him then. Finding his contact info suggests a whole can of worms I'm not sure I want to break into right now, even while I'm on another continent. OTOH, unless he's completely in the throes of Stockholm Syndrome--still, at 38--he should understand better than anybody else why I might not want to get in touch with my biodad and stepmother. (I don't even know if they're still around; she apparently looked very ill indeed in the early '90s, but there is still a phone listing in her name. My biodad, who knows.) It looks like he's probably fairly sane, as these things go, and has made a decent life for himself. I actually considered sending him an e-mail 5+ years ago. The possibility will require a lot more thought. I'm far better prepared to deal with whatever may arise these days, but it's still giving me chest pains.
Yeah, I've been feeling the social isolation lately, especially from family other than my uncle and his crew. I'm really glad we got things cleared up, while I was back in VA!
A couple more recent blog posts:
Attitudes, disability, and violence
Time to meditate?